Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The doomed quest for perfection

  1. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Let’s begin the Fight
  2. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Rejection – The Ugly Word
  3. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Learning to Juggle
  4. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: To Dump or not to Dump
  5. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Keep the Faith
  6. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Finding Your Identity
  7. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Just for the love of it
  8. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: 5 Step plan for success
  9. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Planning Issue
  10. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Crossroads
  11. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Overwhelming Effect
  12. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Waiting Game
  13. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Reflection 2013
  14. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: New Year New Challenges
  15. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Am I a real Writer?
  16. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Taking The Next Step
  17. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Submission Phobia
  18. Setting Self Doubt On Fire: How To Get Ideas
  19. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Dealing with Fear
  20. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Only Guarantee
  21. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Doubts of others
  22. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Let those positives shine
  23. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: First Draft Blues
  24. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Time-wasting issue
  25. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Embrace the bad ideas
  26. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Writer or Author?
  27. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Negative Feedback; the double slap
  28. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Pat yourself on the back
  29. Setting Self Doubt On Fire: The Deflated Eureka Moment
  30. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The doomed quest for perfection
  31. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Writing Group fears
  32. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Horror Tree Crew tackle Mr Self Doubt
  33. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Read aloud challenge
  34. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Find your inner belief
  35. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: NaNoWriMo and Self-Doubt
  36. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: We are NaNoWriMo winners
  37. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: New Year’s Resolutions for Writers
  38. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The benefits of organizing
  39. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Editing Strain
  40. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Writing Group Experience
  41. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Dealing with second stage fears
  42. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Reading aloud to an audience
  43. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Importance of perseverance
  44. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Self-Doubt or Gut Feeling
  45. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Get ready for NaNoEdMo
  46. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Benefits of Writing Goals
  47. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Rejection Gets Better
  48. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Writers, take care of yourself!
  49. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: How to Boost Your Self-Confidence
  50. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Why You Should Go to a Writing Festival
  51. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Help! A Publisher has Dropped Me
  52. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Setting Self Doubt on Fire Challenge
  53. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: How to Prepare for a Book Reading Event
  54. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: It’s NaNoWriMo and NaNoEdMo Time
  55. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Help! I Didn’t Reach My NaNo Goal
  56. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Let’s Beat Self-Doubt in 2017
  57. WIHM: Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Female Horror Writer and Proud
  58. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Don’t Let Self-Doubt Make You Miss Deadlines
  59. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Hey! Where’s My Book Reading Audience
  60. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: 5 Tips on How to Ignore the Negative Voices
  61. Video Refresh: Rejection – The Ugly Word
  62. Video Refresh: Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Learning to Juggle
  63. Video Refresh: To Dump or not to Dump
  64. Video Refresh: Keep The Faith
  65. Video Refresh: Finding Your Identity
  66. Video Refresh: 5 Step plan for success
  67. Video Refresh: The Planning Issue
  68. Video Refresh: The Crossroads
  69. Video Refresh: The Overwhelming Effect
  70. Video Refresh: The Waiting Game
  71. Video Refresh: Am I A Real Writer?
  72. Video Refresh: Taking The Next Step
  73. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Let’s Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway in 2019
  74. Video Refresh: Submission Phobia
  75. Video Refresh: Dealing With Fear
  76. WIHM: Setting Self Doubt on Fire: The Female Horror Author Reading Challenge
  77. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Writer or Author? Video Refresh
  78. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Beat the Fear of Self-Publishing
  79. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: Do NaNoWriMo Differently This Year
  80. Setting Self Doubt on Fire: How Can Online Groups Help Writers?
  81. Setting Self-Doubt on Fire – AuthorTube – Learn How to Describe Emotion
  82. Setting Self-Doubt on Fire: How to Set Realistic Goals for NaNoWriMo

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Hi everyone! I’m back again, here to share some words of wisdom, or so I hope. Today, I have a topic for you that I’m sure many of you have struggled to deal with many times before. As you can see from the title, I’m going to be discussing the risk of looking for perfection.

 

When faced with the prospect of rejection, we can often find ourselves desperate to avoid any chances of this happening by aiming to create the perfect manuscript. We do this by painstakingly checking our grammar, spelling, format, style, plot etc. in the hopes to create something flawless. However, by aiming for such an unattainable goal not only can you waste too much time, you can also lose faith in your abilities. Now when you are already dealing with self-doubt the last thing any of us need is something else to make us doubt ourselves further.

 

So to help you understand why fighting for perfection is a doomed quest, I’ve listed five points for you to consider:

 

  • Stops you submitting: So many times I’ve missed story submission deadline because the story wasn’t perfect enough to submit, and every time I do this I beat myself up over the missed opportunity. Sure, there might have been a misplaced comma, but who knows the editors might have liked it enough to overlook this. Sometimes you just have to go for it, take the risk, and see what happens.
  • Makes you focus solely on the negative: To perfect your manuscript you must hunt for any mistakes or flaws, now while this isn’t a bad thing (this is why we do the editing process after all), constantly concentrating on the flaws can make you blind when it comes to the positives, and it’s the positives that matter the most.
  • You over edit: I’ve often found that my stories have been so over edited that it no longer holds the sparkle that it once had. It resembles a show home, lacking in personality rather than something that might be rough around the edges but still grabs your full attention. Edit as much as you need to, not as much as you want to.
  • Lose confidence: This links with point two, if you only see the negatives you will lose faith in your skills as a writer, and self-belief is important if you’re on this journey.
  • End up hating your story: This is another one I’ve experienced, this point links everything together, you convince yourself so much that your work needs to be perfect, so when it isn’t you will feel nothing but disappointment rather than the pride you should feel for making the time to sit and write the story.

 

To help you find ways to avoid the hunt for perfection, I’ve listed another five points for you to consider:

 

  • Focus on what’s important: As long as a story has an exciting plot and strong characters that readers care about it doesn’t matter if you put one comma in the wrong place. By producing a strong story you can be forgiven for any minor flaws.
  • Remind yourself that perfection doesn’t exist: It’s true, it doesn’t, and we spend so much time in our lives aiming to be perfect whether that is the way we look, our careers, roles in the family. However, there is no such thing, nothings perfect, if you look closely enough, you’ll see that everything has something wrong with it.
  • Remember, you’re human, you will make mistakes: You will make a mistake, it happens, it doesn’t make you a rubbish writer. So instead of beating yourself up over a typo (as long as you don’t have too many), accept that all you can do is your best, and as time goes by you will get better.
  • Set a limit on how many times you edit: If you are like me, you can edit too much, which causes the issue that I mentioned above, so to defeat that you can set a limit on the amount of times you edit your story. Once you hit that limit, then you better leave the story alone and submit, and only after a certain amount of rejections, or if you get some constructive criticism, should you do another edit.
  • Get some feedback: Sometimes you can get so blinded by your quest for perfection that you can’t see the true beauty of your story, and this is where getting someone to read your story for you helps. If your chosen reader comes back saying they were gripped by your story, enjoyed it and yearned for more, then leave that delete button alone and submit that story. However, if they notice nothing but mistakes, then you need to do another edit.

 

That’s all I have for you today. Let us all forget about being perfect, instead focus on being the greatest writer you can be, and join me as we take another step closer to beating Mr Self Doubt.

 

To end this post, here is another inspirational quote:

 

“If you look for perfection, you’ll never be content.” ― (Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina)

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Nicole Simms

Nicole J. Simms is a UK horror, crime and fantasy writer. However, she is open to writing in other genres. Her stories have been published in anthologies, in magazines and on websites. In 2016, she won the Nine Voices’ 50-Word Halloween Competition with her story ‘Meeting the Parents’. And, her self-published e-book The Book of Drabbles is now available to download for free. She is also the deputy leader of the Oldbury Writing Group, a West Midlands based writing group. They have published a WW2 anthology together titled From Sunrise to Sunset, and they are now working on their second anthology. Stephen King, Sharon Bolton, J. K. Rowling, R. L. Stine and Kelley Armstrong are some of her favourite authors. And, when she’s not writing, she loves to bake, paint, knit and go on nature walks. Find out more at: Website - http://nicole-j-simms.co.uk Facebook link - https://www.facebook.com/NicoleJSimmsWriter Twitter link - https://twitter.com/NicoleJSimms1 Goodreads link - https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/19383148.Nicole_J_Simms

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  1. April 30, 2020

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